Too often these days I encounter single and divorced, young and middle-aged women complaining there's nobody out there, nobody who wants, loves or desires to build a life with, them.
However, according to the U.S. Census Bureau, there are more single adults in the population now (half of them men!) than ever before. Surely we could find at least one good man among so many!
Yet, dating, mating and marriage aren't happening for 21st Century women as it did for our counterparts of earlier generations. And, when it does happen, longevity is up for grabs! Seems today marriage falls short of 'til death do us part, and instead serves as a segue, to scenes reminiscent of the movie Groundhog Day--you know, where you find yourself going through the same motions, same type of men; experiencing the same starts and stops, same mistakes--over and over and--dare I say it--over again!
Before you decide failed relationships are a product of the 21st Century--and there actually are good, factual reasons to believe this--stop, and take a look at yourself, and then examine how you are making your relationship decisions.
Are you choosing a particular man:
- So you won't be alone?
- Because you don't think you will get another chance at love, if you don't jump on this one?
- Your biological clock is ticking, and the time remaining to have a baby is running out?
- You're tired of making it on your own?
- You don't want to grow old alone?
- You hate putting the garbage out?
- You have nothing better to do with your life?
If you answered yes to one or more of these questions, stay tuned. In the coming weeks, we'll explore the ways women ages 20 to 50-something can make better decisions about long-term relationship choices with men, by understanding what a woman wants and needs in a love relationship. Love, as the Tina Turner song goes, really has little to do with how well we plan and execute our relationships!
Other Midlifeventure News
The information we'll post over the next several weeks comes from our latest project, the development of the Words of Wisdom for Women in the 21st Century Series (Copyright Catherine Rain, 2010) .
To help us in this venture, we welcome aboard Research Assistant, Deanna Jeffery. With Deanna, I will be piloting the first book in the series What Women Should Know Before Saying I Do a First, Second or Third Time! (Copyright Catherine Rain, 2010). In Phase I, we'll meet with women ages 20-60 in Brevard County, Florida to capture their viewpoints and perspectives about this important issue. In Phase II, we'll visit via webinar and GoToMeeting with women in the same age groups from around the country.
If you're interested in participating in either Phase I or Phase II workshops, please respond to this post or contact Deanna at deanna@rainandbrehm.com.
Give us a shout! We look forward to hearing from you!
Copyright Catherine Rain, Midlifeventures, June 2010.
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